True Love

 

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Pure love, which enlightens us all, is the real quality of the Heart Chakra. In the unrealized state we rarely love for love’s sake. Because of our conditionings we confuse feelings of love with those of possession, sex and selfishness. Pure love is detached, it gives without interest. Like the tree which gives shade to one and all, it is without prejudice and motive. True love is the quality that emanates from the Spirit and not from the body or mind. When we talk of loving someone, we should understand the direction in which this love is flowing. Bodily attraction is physical. It can arise out of sex appeal or the conditioned response to a dream image of a prince charming or even from an artist’s or ad-man’s projection. There are even those who exercise seductive arts to ensnare a good “catch”.

We can see this in whose who indulge in excessively trendy fashions. These people are especially at risk in their relationships because they relate not as two Spirits, but as two fashionable physical forms. This kind of physical attraction is not true love because it comes from the mind, and mind does not love – it merely wants. When the want of the mind is attained, then the novelty wears off. For instance a child is excited and attached to a new toy, but after a few days as the novelty wears away, the excitement dies. The same occurs with relationships which are based simply on physical attraction. That which is illusory cannot love or be loved; it is a fancy of the eyes which Shakespeare aptly described:

Tell me where is fancy bred
Or in the heart of in the head,
How begot, how nourished?
Reply, reply,
It is enlightened in the eyes,
With gazing fed, and fancy dies
In the cradle where it lies.
Merchant of Venice, Act III (2)

When the groom enters the house of an Indian bride, she welcomes him at the threshold and offers worship to his Spirit. Thus the marriage is a spiritual union. Without recognition of the Spirit marriage results in transitory relationships of the make and break kind. This casual state in turn adversely affects the heart center and causes insecurity. Hence, instead of confidence between the husband and wife, an undercurrent of fear runs between them. A lot of the problems of insecurity in our society comes from these sort of emotional traumas and not just from things like money worries.

Love is often mistakenly taken as restricted to male and female. In fact love is the flow of life in all limbs, between children/ parents, brothers/sisters, friends, old people, etc. Where many people share and care, then the whole society opens up its heart centre. It becomes a collective society and changes the world. This is the power of love. Love is the principle behind all creation, all vibrations. We say that God is love and love is God, because in its depths we cease to be. In true love there is no “I” and “You”, there is simply the merging in the Spirit. In this state we experience true human unity, the true oneness of life. Physically we can appear as different colours, shapes, characteristics, but as we become the Spirit the drops all become one ocean, with the vibrations dancing in different rhythms, taking different patterns, breaking and remaking again in a perpetual cosmic dance. Hate and jealousy develop an anti-current which flows against the cosmic rhythm. Where there is love there is growth, celebration, joy and evolution.

Written by a Sahaja Yogi